How to: Stay Motivated

In order to follow your dreams and reaching your goals, it is utmost important to stay motivated. Easier said than done, right? I have had countless situations of where I had so much ambition of achieving something, but as always, procrastination got the best of me; from learning Spanish to playing the guitar- I have only learned the basics of Spanish and ‘Hablo muy poco Espanol’ (which means, I speak very little Spanish and for the guitar… well, I think I managed to play an intro of a Linkin Park song.

I have realized a lot of us, tend to start something, but never finish it. You join the gym, but never go; you start creating something and yet again, you don’t finish- the list goes on and on. So, I decided to make a list of how to stay motivated, in order to get shit, actually done.

Write it down:

Yes, I know. You have heard a million times, but it is because it actually works. Seriously, categorize your goals and dreams according to your life, work, social and training. It is important to find a balance in your life to enjoy it to the full. Whether it is a promotion at work, that dream house, being invited to that exclusive party or reaching your goal weight you are aiming for- write it down and then write down your steps on how you are going to achieve it. Tackle one task at a time, don’t start with a lot at once as you will get demotivated because you feel too much pressure. Baby steps.

Steer away from negative people/ thoughts:

Surround yourself with optimistic and driven people that want to get stuff done, their positive energy will soon rub off on you.

Always stay positive and encourage yourself. If you want people to believe in you, you will have believe in yourself first. Another way of getting rid of negative thoughts is to (yes, again) write it down and throw it or burn it, whatever you like; research has shown negative thoughts written on paper can be seen as objects and if you throw it out, you get rid of the negativity.

Motivate Others:

Encourage others to follow their dreams and reach their goals as well- encouragement goes a long way. You don’t always have to be the encourager, but they can be motivated from your actions. This can also be a way to ensure you do what you set out to do for a day, because you know that what you are busy doing is inspiring others. Inspiration often lies within us.

List your accomplishments:

It is important that you keep track of what you have achieved, so that you can look back on it and realize how far you have actually come and why you should not give up.

Stay True:

Often, after many accomplishments people lose sight and forget the reason why they are actually doing what they are doing. Always stay your true self and morals. Don’t do anything that could deprive you from your standards in order to get what you want- if that is the case, maybe it isn’t meant for you.


What It Is Really Like After School

Remember being a youngster and all the adults would talk about how their friendships had faded away and nothing works out the way you plan, and you are just sitting there thinking : “Ugh, that would never happen to my friends and I. Besides, what do they know? They don’t know what we are going through.” Truth is, the older you get- or let me rephrase that, the more you mature, you realize how more often than not your parents and every adult who has ever given you advice, is in actual fact correct.

Honestly, I was terrified of leaving school, and my only advice for any student is to enjoy and appreciate it ;and for heaven’s sake, don’t ask why- and just do it.

You might think you have all your plans figured out, and heck you might be lucky enough to have it figured it, but there is one, very important thing you haven’t figured out and quite frankly no one has: Life. In order to get ahead in life, you have to be prepared for how unprecedented life can be and be willing to go with it. Your plans might not work out the way you had hoped, but there is always a reason for why things turn out the way they do. No human being is ever prepared for what life throws at them, but you should have one important weapon to throw back: Faith.

Look, I had it all figured out (or at least I thought I did). I would have been studying media journalism and be interning at a magazine in Cape Town. Did it happen? No. I am currently working a full time job, trying to balance a social- and work life and trying to follow my dreams by doing an online course I had won thanks to Cultnoise Online Magazine. And let me tell you, it’s hard, really hard. In order to stay focused, motivated and inspired is another job all on its own.

I might not be fortunate enough to have gone to University, but I am grateful for where life has planted me to bloom. It might be tougher than I had expected, but it only makes me stronger and my dreams are the only things that keep me going, which make me realize how important dreams are.

Life will throw curve balls in your life: you might end up doing what you never had thought of and your best friend might just not be your best friends anymore. But that’s why you should keep on dreaming, aspiring and inspiring, so new people will come into your life, and make you realize as to why it had never worked with the people from your past.

Never lose faith, hope and your dreams- even if life throws you in a new chapter of your life.

You’ll be okay.

How to: Move On

The saddest, or shall I rather say most painful thing I have recently experienced, is pretending not to care about someone, because sadly enough, whether you show it or not, the other person clearly doesn’t give a shit. It was quite astonishing to me, to realize how much a person actually can care and then again how little they actually can too. I am sure every-single-one-of-you have dealt with-or are dealing with it and I am sure you can agree- it hurts like a b*tch. Please note present tense, because fortunately for us, we actually do give a shit – to put it plain and simple.

Yet, your lives, thoughts and imaginations cannot keep on revolving around these people who hardly give a shit about you. So, using my favorite quote:

“In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it.” – Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet In Heaven

In 3 small (yet huge) steps, to give some clarification on how to move the hell on:

Step 1: Understand

You need to understand as to why you are feeling what you do, besides the fact that you care, you need to understand why life has thrown this fork in your road – which means that you should not turn around and go back to the past, but to overcome the obstacle which will only make you stronger and wiser. So, in your future relationship, you will know what to look out for and what not, what you need and what you don’t. It’s simply a learning curve that came your way and broke your little heart. But, everything will be okay, you are still alive, well and breathing. Nothing lasts forever, not even heartache- unfortunately memories don’t fade that easily, but time heals.

Step 2: Accept

In order to move on, you need to accept what happened and accept that it is not meant to be. Don’t blame yourself and don’t blame them. The sooner you do that, the easier it will get.

“Don’t be sad because it’s over, smile because it happened”

Step 3: Let it go

Sure, I get it- easier said than done. But you need to realize as to why you no longer need to feel what you do. Because, well you just don’t. So just let it go. Things happen for a reason.

“In order to fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.”

Now spread those wings and fly.